Relationships Talk

Are you still nervous when it comes time to make out with your bae? Maybe you’re worried that you’re unknowingly committing a kissing faux pas, or your smooches feel not-so-on-point? Not to worry—we’ve compiled a list of the biggest mistakes you could be making during your kissing sesh.

1. You’re using too much tongue. You’ve probably heard this one countless times and that’s because it’s SO important. Sloppy kisses are a huge turnoff, so don’t go overboard with the tongue, especially at first. To start, gently touch your tongue to your partner’s, and slowly add a little more if they seem receptive.

2. You’re using too little tongue. Yes, there is such a thing. Tongue-less kisses can get a little dry, so amp up the passion with just the right amount of tongue. Practice with bae to figure out what works for both of you.

3. Your teeth are in the way. There are right ways to use your teeth while kissing, but aggressive biting is definitely not one of them. Some people are into soft lip biting, but keep it to a minimum before you know what your partner likes.

4. You aren’t closing your eyes. Kissing itself can get pretty awkward, but staring straight into bae’s eyes when you’re leaning in will probably make it worse. Skip the embarrassing aftermath and keep those lids closed.

5. Your kisses have no variation. Whether you’ve got great kissing technique or not, going for the same moves over and over again can become boring for both you and your partner. Try switching up your speed and pressure on the lips.

6. You’re only focused on the lips. If you want your kiss to reach the next level, don’t limit yourself to the lips. Turn up the heat by stroking your partner’s back or softly biting their ear.

7. You don’t freshen your breath beforehand. Clean breath is a must before going in for a kiss. Keep a mint or piece of gum handy and avoid those smelly foods!

8. You’re not prepping your lips ahead of time. Swipe on a moisturizing balm before going in for a super smooth kiss—chapped lips can get in the way of that!

9. You (or your partner) are not ready. Don’t automatically assume that either of you are down for a make out. Make sure you take your time and only go in for the French when you’re absolutely ready.

10. You’re putting too much pressure on yourself. Kissing should be fun and exciting, so take a deep breath and just relax if your smooch sessions aren’t totally amazing. Remember, practice makes perfect!

11. You’re not communicating with each other. Consent is a crucial part of any intimacy with a partner, and it’s up to both of you to set the tone. It might feel awkward at first, but try to slip in some information about what you like when it comes to kissing, and ask the same of your partner. Maybe the next time you watch a rom-com, press pause during a make out scene and call out something you do or don’t like about the kiss you’re both watching. This can help you get into a conversation about kissing preferences that will prove to be super helpful the next time you pucker up.

Yerin Kim is the Assistant Snapchat Editor at Seventeen.com. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram!