Relationships Talk

One thing can pretty much be guaranteed about any person who has just come through a divorce. No matter how much of a brave face they attempt to put on, they are likely to be emotionally fragile. Depending on how acrimonious the end of their relationship was, getting into another one may well be the very last thing on their mind. If you’ve been divorced, what advice would help you regain your confidence? What if you’re interested in getting to know a recent divorcee? What would be the best way to approach them? When it comes to using a dating website, what should you be aware of?

While a lot of pointers about dating after a divorce are down to common sense and individual circumstances, there are certain general rules which can be applied. Here is some of the best advice.

Only return to dating when you’re ready

If you want to get into dating again after coming through a divorce, the most important decision you have to make is a simple one. Are you ready? It can be quite difficult to quantify when it would be healthy for you to get back ‘into the saddle’; realistically it’s only you who can make this call. But the important aspect is to take your time before committing to a new relationship. Ensure wounds have healed before you are ready to embrace a more positive future.

Try out dating sites

Online dating is almost tailor-made for post-divorce relationships. You have a diverse range of potential partners, literally at your fingertips. You can take your time assessing the particular qualities of any of the singles you come across, deciding which of these charming individuals would be most compatible.

Try and recover that sense of optimism

It’s only natural to feel a sense of despondency when a relationship finally comes to its conclusion. However, rather than dwelling on the past, If you want to embrace your love life again it would pay to remain positive about your future. So avoid anything liable to resurrect memories, such as date locations you used to favor, or music you once adored listening to. Instead, focus on different activities to enjoy with your new partner.

Be mindful of previous relationship flaws

It would do no harm to consider where things went wrong first time around. Perhaps you were too blind to see the wheels coming off at the time, but with the benefit of hindsight, you might have a better perspective on what you would do differently. Keep these in mind as you indulge in a new courtship, and take remedial action to smooth over any potential issues as soon as possible.

Focus on less superficial qualities

Perhaps you were drawn to your first partner by physical attraction. There’s obviously nothing wrong with that, but if you want to make the most of a post-divorce partnership, try prioritizing more enduring qualities, rather than how fanciable a person might be. Attributes like kindness, reliability, intelligence, and honesty will truly bring you together. These will spur the deeper emotions leading to chemistry.

Don’t rush into a new relationship

You don’t even have to put yourself out there at all if you are still unsure of how things might progress. Take your time. Savor what it feels like to be single again after having spent so long as part of an item; perhaps latterly, an unhappy and unsatisfied part of an item. There would be no harm in enjoying the life of a singleton for a while before rushing into getting involved with someone again. Your time will come in due course.