Relationships Talk

A seemingly perfect marriage like Ayesha and Steph Curry‘s doesn’t happen without putting in lots of work. And luckily for us, Ayesha is sharing some of the best marriage advice she’s ever received—something both her and Steph’s parents passed down to them.

“…The biggest thing, both of our parents are still married and have been married for 30-plus years, and the one thing that they both shared with us—some through learning it the hard way, some through just making sure that they do it—is just making sure that we put each other first, even before the kids, as tough as that sounds,” Ayesha said in a recent interview with HelloGiggles.

It’s rare that a mom would say anything but her children—of which she has three—were her priority, but we can’t knock this honesty.

“Putting ourselves first, and making sure that we make time for date nights and for each other. That’s been very important, as hard as it is,” she continued. “Because when you become a parent, you want to put your kids first, and we do, but we do it second to our relationship. Because ultimately, when our relationship is good, the kids are happy and they’re thriving and our family life is good. We have to put that into perspective and realize that it’s not us being selfish, it’s making sure we set a strong foundation.”

In addition to prioritizing date nights over play dates, they also swear by good communication. “I want to say that we’re good communicators, but maybe that wouldn’t be a surprise,” the mom of three said. “But that’s what keeps our bond strong.”

After seven years of marriage and meeting years before as teens, we imagine these two have talked about almost everything. “Even when we don’t want to talk about something, we talk about it,” she admitted. “Especially from my perspective, I’m a ‘lay it all out on the table’ kind of girl, so whether it’s a tough conversation or an easy conversation, I never have a tight lip. I tell it like it is and I tell it straight, and ultimately I think it keeps things a lot better for us.”

Communication is especially key in a powerhouse relationship like this. Steph is busy winning NBA championships, while Ayesha has a full calendar keeping up with her celebrity chef duties. Not only do these two need to be in constant contact to just check in emotionally, they also just need to keep their schedules straight.

According to Ayesha though, It’s not strictly business when it comes to their chats. Steph is apparently quite the funny guy and family man—two items in a list of qualities that helped her decide he was “the one.”

“I think it’s when I realized how humble and selfless he was,” she said. “And honestly he’s so funny, I don’t think a lot of people know how funny he is. When I realized I could just let go and laugh and be myself around him, and that even with everything he had going on in his life at the time he was still this humble, kind, generous, gentle person, I knew that’s who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.”

Before they tied the knot, Steph also took the time to also get to know Ayesha’s family as well, which she says sealed the deal.

“And then I have two younger brothers, and he would come over to my house, play video games with them late into the night, and at the time one of my brothers was still in high school and the other was in middle school, and he would come over as a college student and just hang out with them,” she recalled. “That was so special to me, that he was willing to do that. I was like, ‘He’ll make a great dad.’ And he has!”

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One part communication, one part selfishness, and one part good dad vibes is clearly the perfect formula to finding your soulmate.