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Common Sex Problems Marriage Counselors Hear About – Reader's Digest

You’re not alone! Here are some common sex problems marriage counselors get asked about most often.

We don’t have time for sex

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“Between jobs, kids, taking care of the household, and social demands, you may feel like there’s no time left for each other,” says Jill Whitney, LMFT who practices in Old Lyme, Connecticut and blogs about relationships and sexuality. “When you do have time together, it’s more likely to be collapsed on the sofa in front of Netflix rather than romping in the bedroom.” Whitney says this routine of neglecting sex isn’t good for your marriage. “Sex is an important way for partners to connect physically and emotionally,” she says. “It deserves to be a priority in your marriage.” She suggests blocking out uninterrupted time together. “Go on dates where you laugh and talk. Then come home early enough that you’re not too tired to get frisky,” she says. “Arrange an overnight babysitting swap with another family so you can bask in bed together on a Saturday morning. Do whatever you need to make sure sex remains a vibrant part of your marriage. It’s an important ‘glue’ that keeps you strong as a couple.” Find out how to improve your sex life in just one day.

Sex has gotten boring

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It’s typical to feel like things have gotten a little stale when it comes to your sex life. But a study claims that feeling can come sooner for women. In fact, women reported a lack of interest in sex once they were in a relationship for more than a year, according to the study. “Couples often figure out a pattern of lovemaking that works for them,” says Whitney. “One partner does this lovely thing, the other person does that, and everyone has a good time. Unfortunately, your typical way of making love gets old after a while. Your sex may still be pleasant, but it’s not exciting.” If this sounds like you, she encourages you to try something novel. “This could be something as simple as new lingerie, a slow massage, or watching a racy movie together,” she says. If you’re feeling a little braver, she says you can discuss your fantasies and try to act on them.

My husband wants sex all the time

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“Many women want sex just as much as men,” says David Simonsen, Ph.D, LMFT, who practices in Olympia, Washington. It’s common wisdom, though, that women place more value on the emotional connection as a spark of sexual desire. “They’re more emotionally in tune in the relationship. They don’t want to be intimate because they’re emotionally disconnected from their spouse. Men value food, sex, and respect to be happy in a marriage. Women value security and everything that comes with that… emotional, physical, etc.”

'Bachelor' couple Sean and Catherine Lowe slam Colton Underwood virginity jokes, offer star advice – Fox News

When it comes to “The Bachelor” Colton Underwood’s virginity, the jokes are going too far, an alumnus of the show recently said.

“I think some people are more interested in creating a joke around his virginity as opposed to just asking, ‘Why are you taking this stance?’ Because it’s obviously a choice and he probably has a pretty good reason behind it,” Sean Lowe, who led the reality show’s 17th season, told Fox News.

“There are very few people willing to take that stance or believe in that stance. I totally get it. I get why so many people would see it as odd or weird. It’s just unfortunate that they would rather make a joke out of it than anything else,” he said.

Sean was nicknamed the “Virgin Bachelor” when he appeared on the show. He previously said he found the nickname to be “annoying” at times, but also a good opportunity to talk about his faith.

“That name kind of cast me as being an outsider because of my values and [people] didn’t want to understand why I made that decision,” he said. “But now I see that it’s opened up a lot of conversation, and it’s been a blessing to be able to help people in some small way and maybe introduce people to Jesus because of it.”

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Sean and Catherine – who are celebrating their fifth wedding anniversary this weekend with some ax-throwing in Brooklyn – say they’re a “boring, married couple” who still “love the simple life.” The pair is partnering with Subway for Valentine’s Day for the “ultimate” date. Fans can join the couple for sandwiches at the Subway on Main Street in Dallas from 6 to 9 p.m. on Feb. 14.

“There are very few people willing to take that stance or believe in that stance.  … It’s just unfortunate that they would rather make a joke out of it than anything else.”

— Sean Lowe

Subway recently debuted a new Ultimate Cheesy Garlic Bread sandwich that includes roasted garlic, melted parmesan and shredded mozzarella in a sub.

“We love a good, cheesy date; we love food,” Catherine said.

“I was sold at Subway,” Sean joked of the event.

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As for Underwood, “The Bachelor” couple, who have two children, offered some advice.

“Don’t get caught up in the hype,” Sean said. “You can come off ‘The Bachelor’ and you can have all this attention and you’re on a million different morning shows and things of that nature — it’s fleeing. Be the same humble guy, which I think he will be,” he said, referring to Underwood.

Catherine encouraged Underwood and whoever he chooses to make time for one another.

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“There are so many factors that when you get off the show, you don’t really know each other. You don’t live in the same city, and there are so many things to learn about the other person that if you made a commitment to be with them through thick or thin, it really tests you in so many ways,” she said. “You have to find ways to show each other you care and that you’re in it. Just having the guy put you as a priority is really important in this stage.”

Women reveal worse pregnancy advice they were given – Daily Mail

‘I was told that I need to shave down there or the baby will get carpet burn’: Women reveal the WORST pregnancy advice they’ve been given – including using SEMEN to stop hormonal acne

  • A Reddit thread was filled with horror stories from women who had been given awful pregnancy advice, after one poster asked them to post ‘crazy’ suggestions 
  • The post received approximately 10,500 comments from different women 
  • One user revealed that she was told to avoid drinking all water ‘because it can cause nausea’ 
  • Another recalled how someone told her to not to drink hot tea, as it would ‘boil’ her baby 

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Carrying a growing baby in your body for nine months of your life can be stressful enough without being told unnecessary lies and myths as people try to give you advice.

However, thousands of women on Reddit are revealing the worst advice they were given while pregnant, and some of the answers are completely bizarre. 

Being told to avoid sitting on stairs and eating peanut butter, as well as being advised to drink beer while carrying a child were just some of the very bizarre pieces of advice users revealed they received during pregnancy. 

Crazy! A viral thread on Reddit has received more than 10,500 comments from different women recalling the worst advice they were ever given while pregnant (stock image)

Crazy! A viral thread on Reddit has received more than 10,500 comments from different women recalling the worst advice they were ever given while pregnant (stock image)

The question was asked by Reddit user @FuzzyTortoise, who wrote: ‘Pregnant women or women who have been pregnant, what is the worst/craziest advice someone has given you about your pregnancy?’

The post received an 89 per cent upvote, as well as roughly 10,500 comments from people revealing their stories.  

Food and drink myths were a popular results on the thread, with one user saying that she was advised to steer clear of drinking water, ‘because it causes nausea’. 

One user wrote: ‘When I was pregnant past my due date a co-worker advised me to drink cod liver oil mixed with vodka. Apparently this mixture would upset my digestive system, give me horrible diarrhea and thus trigger labor contractions.

‘Edit: I did not drink this combo to help with being overdue. I ended up several days later being medically induced and labor/delivery was swift and baby healthy. He is a grown man now,’ they added. 

Another user, who was also given bizarre advice, said that she was told not to drink hot tea because she could ‘boil’ her baby.

One other user wrote: ‘I had a co-worker tell me that eating peanut butter (I was eating an apple with peanut butter on my lunch break) would give my baby cancer.  

Bizarre! Many women revealed that they were given bad nutrition advice, such as avoiding drinking hot tea because it could 'boil' her baby 

Bizarre! Many women revealed that they were given bad nutrition advice, such as avoiding drinking hot tea because it could 'boil' her baby 

Bizarre! Many women revealed that they were given bad nutrition advice, such as avoiding drinking hot tea because it could ‘boil’ her baby 

‘I already thought she was the world’s greatest idiot so that nugget of wisdom was just confirmation,’ she added.

Another user revealed that someone told her not to eat spicy foods, for fear that they can cause a child to be born with a birthmark, or stand under the moon.

In another hilarious reply, one woman wrote: ‘When I was pregnant with my first, my husband asked me why the baby could have nachos and stuff in my belly but when it was born it could only have milk.

‘I just looked at him,’ she added. 

As well as bad nutrition advice, other mothers-to-be were told an array of myths.

A Reddit user commenting on the post said that she was told not to raise her hands above her head, because ‘it will tangle the baby’s cord and the baby will die’.

‘Not to sit on stairs because it will cause you to have a miscarriage… people are crazy,’ another user wrote as she detailed the worst advice she was given while pregnant.  

Odd! Other users on Reddit revealed the worst pregnancy advice they received, including one woman who was told to avoid swimming, because her baby might drown in the water 

Odd! Other users on Reddit revealed the worst pregnancy advice they received, including one woman who was told to avoid swimming, because her baby might drown in the water 

Odd! Other users on Reddit revealed the worst pregnancy advice they received, including one woman who was told to avoid swimming, because her baby might drown in the water 

Another user added: ‘Not me but my sister. She had to have an emergency c section when she had my niece. Her mother in law said she wouldn’t be a “real woman” unless she had a vaginal birth.’

As the comments about terrible pregnancy advice rolled in, a user recalled being 

Other pregnant women received advice about their appearance while carrying a child.

One user revealed how she was given advice about keeping ‘pregnancy acne’ away.  

‘Oh I’ve got this: the lady at the counter in the village bakery told me that I should smear my face with SEMEN to counter pregnancy acne. It was the first time I’d ever met her,’ she wrote.

Another added: ‘Oh! I was told that I need to shave down there or the baby will get carpet burn.’

Strange: One user was told to avoid sitting on stairs for fear that she might have a miscarriage, while another was told that if she gained more than 25 lbs, the doctor wouldn't deliver the baby

Strange: One user was told to avoid sitting on stairs for fear that she might have a miscarriage, while another was told that if she gained more than 25 lbs, the doctor wouldn't deliver the baby

Strange: One user was told to avoid sitting on stairs for fear that she might have a miscarriage, while another was told that if she gained more than 25 lbs, the doctor wouldn’t deliver the baby

‘The lady giving me a pedicure in my nail salon suggested I let my husband have extra marital affairs for a few months postpartum so I could recover,’ wrote a user, who also received bizarre advice. 

Another woman told the story of how her birth was connected to her religion.

She wrote: ‘My labor should be painless because Jesus died and erased the “pain during childbirth” penalty humans got from Eve. If I feel pain, it’s because I don’t believe in Jesus’ redemptive powers.’ 

Another user recalled someone telling their pregnant partner not to have baths for fear that her baby might drown. 

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