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Farrah Abraham is starting a brand new chapter of her career. The former Teen Mom OG star is now offering therapy to her fans for the price of $5,000.

According to a January 18 report by In Touch Weekly, Farrah Abraham took to her Instagram account this weekend to reveal that she would be partnering with an adult website to provide sex and dating therapy to her fans, and she’s charging $5,000 for only 30 minutes of “Farrahphy.”

“It’s official! FARRAHPY TIME HERE!” Abraham wrote on Instagram, adding that she loved “giving dating advice” during her stint on Ex on the Beach, and decided that she wanted to continue with it. “Couples, individuals, and groups are welcome!” she wrote.

In the video, Abraham says she’s excited about her new role with the site.

“It’s your girl Farrah,” she said. “You can book me for an hour session of couples therapy, sex therapy, Farrahpy, and I’m so excited. It’s going to be great.”

Abraham says that she has qualifications that include, dating “around the globe” and working with “some of the best sex therapists in the world,” asking, “Who [is] better to get your groove back with than with me?”

“My ability to communicate honestly and my openness sexually allows for groundbreaking live sex therapy sessions… My real life tips are best experienced in real-time where I can help couples get comfortable with each other and explore new ways to enjoy themselves in and out of the bedroom,” Abraham also says.

As previously reported by the Inquisitr, Farrah Abraham has worn a lot of hats when it comes to her career. She started on MTV’s 16 and Pregnant, and then moved over to the spin-off, Teen Mom OG, before getting fired last year.

Abraham has also worked in the adult entertainment industry, releasing her sex tape and also a line of products modeled after her own anatomy. She’s also appeared on many other reality shows, including Botched, Couples Therapy, Big Brother, and more, before moving on to celebrity boxing, owning her own retail stores, and working on webcams.

It looks like Farrah is ready for a brand new role now, and is hoping to help others with her knowledge of sex, dating, and relationships. However, since none of her relationship have worked out, it seems odd to some fans, who don’t believe she’s qualified to give advice.

Fans can see more of Farrah Abraham’s life by following her on Instagram.

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You need to make decisions. However, after you make decisions, comes commitments. I took a huge interest in multiple fields from finance, psychology and music through my teens and early twenties. However, I realized that making decisions and then committing to them is what differentiates a man to a boy.

Here are the seven things differentiates a man to a boy.

• Take Responsibility

The first thing that makes a boy a man is to take responsibility for his life. To do this, he has to take responsibility for micro life choices. He has to figure out what he wants for his relationships, career and life.

This is much easier said than done. Choosing your education, peers and influences are going to dictate your life. You need to make decisions and then commit to them.

• Learn How to Attract Women the Right Way

I wished I had a mentor figure in this area of my life. However, I didn’t, and mostly read myself into it. I struggled in this area of my life in my earlier twenties. I had problems attracting girls that I wanted, and had to learn everything from down up from how to approach a stranger to starting a conversation.

There’s the matured way to approach one’s dating life: through authenticity. There’s the immature way to approach one’s dating life: through lies and manipulation. If you’re a man, the truth is enough, there’s no need for lies or deception.

• Be of Value to the World

Thirdly, I believe that a huge part of being a man is to be of value to the world. You need to be of use to the world. You need skillsets, you need to be able to create, you need to be able to do something of value to the world.

Value is up to you to decide. Find something you’re passionate about and become good at it.

• Express Yourself

The making of modern masculinity isn’t of one that of a macho veneer. The making modern masculinity is one of David Deida describes, one that is able to be stoic, yet express traditionally non-masculine traits.

The difference between a boy and a man is that a man is able to express himself. He knows he’s only human and he’s able to express negative emotions such as hurt and sadness. It’s only the boys that still reside in the stereotypical macho identities.

• The Ability to Self Criticize and Self Reflect

The difference between a boy and a man is the ability to self criticize his own behavior. This is a trait that a lot of men are uncomfortable doing. However, by trying to better your flaws, you separate yourself from the pack. The man from the boys.

I wasted years running away from a business strategy that made a lot of sense in the long run. If I had gotten it right from the start, I’ll be further ahead in life and goals. However, I purposely ignored it and choose to use short term strategies in my business. I wasn’t able to self criticize and self reflect.

• Have a Purpose: Have a Noble Goal

Being of value to the world isn’t enough. Everybody can be of value to the world if they tried. It’s harder to have a noble goal. One goal that requires years of sacrifice to pursue.

I started reading dating advice in my earlier 20s because I want a girlfriend. However, that goal evolved to being a better man. That later evolved to helping others become a better man. Now, I am passionate about psychology, knowledge in general and my goal is to reach as many people as possible.

Superficial goals such as money, women and status are chased by boys. Noble goals such as meaning and significance are set by men.

• Having the Right Men Around You

Lastly, the thing that separates boys from men is the people you have around you. This is really difficult to do if you come from an Asian culture or an isolated city like Singapore. You’re going to spend your time with your colleagues, your school friends and to surround yourself the right person around you can be a challenge.

The best person that knows what’s the best for you is you. Not your parents and not your best friends. Throughout my twenties, I was always hungry for knowledge. I always searched for the best ways to live or to do things. However, my thirst for knowledge almost always reflects an inadequacy on the people around me. That caused a lot of social tension. It came to the point where I’d rather be alone, than to spend time with people who I didn’t really connect with.

I’d like to quote Charlie Munger on this: “Acquire worldly wisdom and adjust your behavior accordingly. If you new behavior gives you a little temporary unpopularity with your peer group, then to hell with them.’

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According to psychologist Robert Sternberg, love is made up of three components: “intimacy, passion, and commitment”. Intimacy describes how close you are to your partner. Passion portrays romantic and sexual aspects of the relationship, and commitment is the level of trust and dedication someone has in a relationship.

In this day and age where technology has made virtual dating possible, people can sit in the comfort of their own home and enjoy the fun and excitement associated with the feeling of lust and love.

If you are in your late 20s or 30s and single, it is safe to say you’ve had your fair share of dating woes. First dates bring such excitement to those who are looking for stable relationships and ultimately marriage. However, the pursuit of love can be such a daunting task due to the lack of intimacy, passion and commitment in today’s relationships.

In 2019, save yourself the heartaches and headaches and date with logic. There is a propensity to think that “love is blind” as if you fall in love with anyone without having the control to stop it! Well, if you have been moving from relationship to relationship without any concrete plans as to what you will do differently; then, it is time for you to take a break, reflect, and reassess your whole situation!

When a relationship ends, or even while you are in the relationship, it is important to deploy logic to see if all 3 components exist within that relationship and if they don’t, it may be time to call it quits.

Here are the relationships to avoid in 2019.

“Warm body seekers” seekers:

You know there are those who want a warm body, especially during the winter months. The relationship is so convenient you don’t have to step outside to even be seen together so those relationships can go on for months and get “complicated” as soon as the summer comes around and you want a “boo” or “bae” to chill at the beach with.

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“I am not ready for marriage” men:

Mr. exactly what are you waiting for to be ready? It is true that a man is not ready for marriage when he is not financially stable and does not feel like he can take care of you or the home. However, my policy is if you are not ready, then just stay single. Your job as a woman is not to keep him company, and wait around until he makes up his mind!

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Men who just refuse to let someone else have you:

I don’t even know what to call them, because that is how confused they are. They just want you there, when you try to leave, they make you feel bad, when you stay they don’t appreciate you. Umm, 2019 is everything but the year of confusion. Sis, walk on out while he figures it all out!

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Abusive men:

Abuse can be emotional, physical, financial and psychological. DO NOT allow yourself to be mistreated by a man you are dating. Abusive men do not change, unless they acknowledge a problem as their own. Abuse is not a temper or anger management issue. Abuse is someone saying I want you to do what I want when I want it and that is all.

Experience has taught me that when you love yourself, you do right by you. Staying in a toxic, confused, unhealthy, “complicated” and just dead-end relationships takes a real toll on your psyche, and your overall health! Sis, be good to yourself in 2019! I can’t stress that enough.

Release these boys who don’t feel a need to commit because you have become a maid, a lover, a chef, a laundromat, all for the sake of securing their love. It just ain’t worth it! Remember this, a man knows how to go after what he wants, he doesn’t need your help to make up his mind.

Editor’s Note: Strong relationships are at the core of a happy life, but sometimes, dealing with the people in our lives is tricky. That’s why Thrive Global partnered with The Gottman Institute on this advice column, Asking for a Friend. Every week, Gottman’s relationship experts will answer your most pressing questions about navigating relationships—with romantic partners, family members, coworkers, friends, and more. Have a question? Send it to [email protected]!

Q: I used to have a larger group of friends but cross-country moves, marriages, babies, and jobs have driven the group apart. Sometimes I miss having a larger group but I really love my two close friends. Do I need to make more of an effort to make more?

A: Your story mirrors my life very closely. After a move away from family and friends with a 6-month-old baby, I made my singular focus to assimilate into my surroundings and begin rebuilding my social network.  

As a therapist, I am acutely aware of the silent epidemic affecting adult Americans: loneliness. Nearly half of Americans view themselves as lonely, according to a new Cigna study. Why not be proactive in securing a broader social network?  

As an adult, making friends can be awkward and harder than you think. It actually feels a lot like dating. I found myself sticking around after a spin class to chat with other women and casually suggesting that we go check out a yoga class together or cyberstalking a mom I met at the playground.  

I’m not ashamed of my efforts because it turns out that the mom at the park and the women at spin class were in desperate need for some friend time, too. The depth and quality of your friendships in a larger group will not compare to your two really close friends and that is okay.  

Sometimes you just need a crew of people you can go camping or host a monthly book club with. My trick to friendship dating is to ask a trusted friend to introduce you to two people they think would be a good fit with your personality and interests and then take that person out for coffee or lunch. If you like that person, ask them for two more introductions.  

Another tip is to check out www.meetup.com, a website for individuals looking for group activities in any genre of activity you can think of from painting, photography, scuba diving, cooking, and learning a new language.  

I don’t want to minimize the two really close friends that you do have. Those friendships are a gift and I want to encourage you to continue deepening and nurturing those friendships. We could all be so lucky to have two people in our lives who we can call on when in need.

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