Relationships Talk

Love is at the center of Debra Fileta’s life and career. According to her bio, her love for Jesus Christ grounds her personal relationships, and her Christian faith motivates her to help others in her professional work.

As a licensed counselor, blogger, and author, Debra is all about sharing the love and rejoicing in married life. She is a happily married woman with three beautiful children, so she can speak from personal experience about the blessings of cultivating a healthy relationship.

After writing an insightful book called “True Love Dates,” Debra started the TrueLoveDates blog to share her marriage advice with couples the world over. She now uses this platform to dole out values-driven dating and relationship advice to a primarily Christian audience.

Debra also travels across the country to promote a marriage-positive message at churches, colleges, conferences, and other events. She views herself as part of an online ministry for love, and she is always looking for ways to spread the word.

Recently, Debra published her second book to drive home the point that a happy marriage starts with you. “Choosing Marriage: Why It Has to Start With We > Me” is an inspirational guide for any couples feeling burnt out or stuck in a rut. Debra’s down-to-earth advice has resonated with millions of people from all walks of life.

This marriage expert knows that love may not always come easy, but she encourages couples to stick it out, take responsibility, and do the work it takes to turn a “me” into a “we.”

“My main hope, and the drive behind my entire message through my books, articles, courses and podcast is to teach people that healthy people make healthy relationships,” she said.

How a Viral Blog Post Became a Bestselling Book

Debra’s blog reaches millions of people worldwide, and her audience grows bigger every day as she creates more resources and materials for couples. Thanks to her tireless effort and outreach, Debra has become an authority on marriage and healthy relationships.

“Choosing Marriage” empowers readers to make the decisions that will lead to love.

In May 2018, Debra released a book titled “Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me” to highlight the core principles of a committed relationship. She based this book off one of her more popular articles, “Marriage Is Not About Your Happiness,” which was read by over 3 million people. Debra uses a combination of survey results (taken from 1,000 couples) and personal experience to reveal the trade secrets of successfully married couples.

“The premise of the book is the idea that we go into marriage so unprepared and uneducated about how to do it well,” she said. “We get more driver’s ed training than we do marriage preparation, which is absolutely insane considering how big the decision of marriage is and how much it impacts every facet of our lives.”

Debra closes the knowledge gap in the dating scene by outlining eight core values necessary to a happy, healthy marriage. She urges readers to choose love and commitment over loneliness and conflict. The book addresses people at all relationship stages — even those who aren’t in a relationship at all — and provides them with the foundational tools to transform their love lives.

So far, the book has received praise from all corners of the industry. In fact, 95% of its Amazon customer reviews gave it 5 out of 5 stars. Debra told us she has received thank-you messages from readers who embarked on transformational journeys after taking her advice.

“I’ve heard from people who said it saved their marriage, and others who’ve said it’s completely changed their perspective on marriage,” she said. “It thrills me to hear all this, and I’m praying this book will continue to infuse hope and healing to this generation.”

A Podcast Featuring Real Questions From Real Daters

In addition to her book, Debra tackled another big project this year by becoming a regular podcaster. She launched the Love + Relationships Podcast to grow her authority and expand her audience, and, so far, it has been tremendously successful at doing both.

Debra gives thoughtful advice to help people enrich their relationships.

Singles and couples call in to ask for Debra’s advice, and the professional counselor recommends proven strategies to remove conflict and build healthy relationships. ” It’s just been so much fun getting to interact with my callers in such a candid and unscripted way,” she said, “and the feedback I’ve received about this new podcast is just fueling my excitement for future episodes.”

Debra’s down-to-earth and easy manner keeps people listening, and she isn’t afraid to dive into complex or sensitive topics in episodes that run up to 45 minutes long.

Whether she’s discussing trust issues or the human sex drive, Debra offers an honest assessment of modern relationships and practical tips to bring more love into life. This educational yet entertaining podcast is available on Stitcher and iTunes.

Debra told us the podcast seemed like a natural way to expand her blog, which focuses on creating a dialogue about marriage, because she can speak directly to her audience and deliver more long-form advice in an engaging way. She said the podcast has also paired well with her social media presence.

“One of my favorite things about my blog and social media is how much interaction I get to have with my readers and how much interaction they have with one another,” she said.

Debra Shares a Wholesome Message With Millions of People

Since she wrote her first book in 2013, Debra has counseled millions of singles and couples to find true love. Her core values as a Christian, a wife, and a mother have shaped her advice and her perspective. She speaks with moral authority and compassion about the relationship challenges facing today’s dating population, and she does everything she can to reach out to people feeling lost — because she knows she can help them find their way.

Debra is a passionate supporter of marriage, and her books, podcasts, and blog posts lovingly guide people to create relationships that last a lifetime. Her new book emphasizes that love doesn’t just happen — it starts with you and the choices you make in your life.

“Learning how to get healthy is the best thing you can do for your future dating relationships as well as your future marriage,” she said, “because you attract people who are on your same level of emotional, psychological, and spiritual health.”