Click Here for the Post A 33-year-old virgin has sought the advice of a psychologist after realising she’s ‘too scared to have sex’.
The New Zealand woman, who has chosen to remain anonymous, explained how as a teenager she shied away from sexual experiences with men.
‘I’m a virgin and I think I’m too scared to have sex. Growing up, like many others, I dreamed of marriage and children,’ her confession on Stuff began.
The New Zealand woman, who has chosen to remain anonymous, explained how as a teenager she shied away from sexual experiences with men
‘I was a goody two shoes though and decided to wait until I was married before having sex – not sure why, I don’t think it was a religious thing.’
At uni she had a few self-described ‘fun nights’ with some men but she stuck to the no sex rule and instead just engaged in some cuddling and kissing.
In a 2016 survey of Australians and their sex lives equal numbers (about 28 per cent) agreed and disagreed that happy relationships and marriages can exist without sex.
Interestingly, twice as many men than women strongly disagreed that happy, sexless relationships are possible.
But for the anon virgin, who is now in her early 30s, she’s just looking for a way to break that psychological barrier and do the deed.
At uni she had a few self-described ‘fun nights’ with some men but she stuck to the no sex rule and instead just engaged in some cuddling and kissing
She admitted to never having been in a serious relationship – in the last nine years she had dated three men – and while she had been presented with opportunities to have sex, she’d turned them down.
Lack of experience and reactions from a partner is potentially what is inhibiting her from getting between the sheets, so she asked psychologist Robyn Salisbury what she could do to overcome her trepidation.
Mrs Salisbury argued that she shouldn’t feel ‘ashamed’ at having waited so long and should instead recite one sentence on her next date.
‘Yes, I would like to go out with you but I have to admit I’ve become terrified about my lack of experience,’ said the professional, hoping this might calm her nerves.
And if there are any negative responses to her honesty Mrs Salisbury recommends steering clear of those people.
