Relationships Talk

A concerned mum sought advice after finding out her daughter had started a relationship with her former tutor.

But if she was looking for people to agree with her then she didn’t find it on Mumsnet, where she had posted a message about the “horrifying” situation.

The woman, speaking anonymously, explained how her 24-year-old daughter has just finished a masters course

She is now in a relationship with her tutor, who was her personal supervisor during the course and is 30 years old.

The mum is concerned her daughter has made the wrong decision (Image: Getty)

The mum wrote: “She keeps saying that nothing happened until after she got her results so nothing inappropriate, now they are both adults who just happened to meet each other etc etc…

“Even leaving aside the age gap, I think that is completely inappropriate for a tutor to even look at a student in that way, never mind to start dating them afterwards.

“There obviously must have been some flirtatious relationship between them when she was his student for them to start dating so soon after, which I think is horrifying.

“Is that unreasonable?”

If she was seeking reassurance, she’s going to be a bit disappointed as most of the people who replied to her plea for advice actually disagreed with her.

One mum even told her she was being “very unreasonable”, saying: “There is a 6 year age gap and nothing happened while he was her supervisor.

“They will have lots in common and like the same things so it sounds a great match!”

The daughter had started up a relationship with the older man (Image: Getty)

She was also accused of being “ridiculous” as her daughter is 24, not 14.

Most replied to tell her the age gap was minimal and she was a postgraduate, not an undergraduate, which made it slightly less weird.

One saw where she was coming from, writing: “It’s a bit creepy but they are close in age and he’s not her tutor any more so I think you have to let it be.”

Another wrote: “I’m not far off your daughter’s age and I’d be mortified if my mother thought she had a say in my love life!

“They are both adults and it’s barely an age gap. Don’t push her away by lecturing her on this.”

Other mums agreed that she might ruin her relationship with her daughter if she told her how she felt about it.

What advice would you give the mum? Let us know in the comments below.