Relationships Talk

17 September 2018

‘On screen romance’ used to mean film star couples, but nowadays it’s a more apt description of modern dating! When did meeting your significant other in real life become ‘old school’? Somehow in the last few years, the balance has tipped and daters are meeting the loves of their lives without even leaving the house. But we needn’t just rely on our phones to match us with our potential partners- after all you can’t beat real life chemistry! The team at new dating website, My Friend Charlie, organise events for London singles and share their best tips for finding your lobster.

Looking for a significant other?

1. Get introduced by a friend

Your friends know you better than anyone and can look objectively at people they know, setting you up with like-minded potential suitors. This is great for finding out a little more about someone before going straight in and meeting them- and is how people would date way back when! It is great to have a level of friendship with the person you are dating and meeting them through an existing friend is a good way to establish this. Everybody loves a love story and there’s nothing better than having a connection with someone the first time you meet.

2. Work on yourself first

Before getting out into the dating world it is a good idea to work on yourself first. For example, if you are going through some instability in your job or your home life is causing you stress, it can be a good idea to work through the bigger issues before making dating a priority. This way, you can put your energy into finding that special someone without taking your stresses and strains onto the date with you.

3. Look for dating events

Getting out and dating in the real world can be intimidating, especially if you have been living the single life for a while. Grab the bull by the horns and take a leap of faith by going along to a dating event- you never know where it could lead! My Friend Charlie host quirky events in London for singles, like comedy nights and food masterclasses. You might find your soulmate as a result of bonding over the perfect soufflé! The idea behind their events is to take dating back to a face-to-face experience, moving away from romances solely across a screen.

4. Join a club

If you don’t enjoy sport, going along to a tennis club to find the man of your dreams might not be the best use of your dating energies. Spend time doing things you enjoy, so you can meet like-minded people- they might end up being your soulmate! Joining clubs and making friends is a good way to find social events and get to know people in your area.

Think back to a time where your date would arrive at your front door, the butterflies and nerves that can only be associated with the first meeting. You would head to the local park and spend the afternoon eating picnic food and playing lawn games- Well, maybe our grandparents would have! My Friend Charlie are running a ‘picnic in the park and games’ event next month, so grab some single friends and take a trip back to the past!

5. Get out of your comfort zone

Whether that means going to a bar alone or arranging a group date and bringing someone you fancy, there are plenty of ways you can push your dating boundaries. Engaging in experiences that will push you out of your comfort zone are great for improving confidence and again, gives you the opportunity to meet your possible love interest in real life rather than online!

For more dating advice and information about My Friend Charlie, visit www.myfriendcharlie.co.uk