Relationships Talk

Confused about what men are looking for in their ‘soul mate’. In women in general?

Not surprising!

I get that it can seem like men want everything – or that different men want enough different things that it FEELS like men want everything.

But I’ve got good news for you.

There’s no woman who truly ‘has it all’ – and you don’t have to figure out how to be everything he wants to become his soul mate.

There’s a much easier way – but more on that later.

The truth is – if you want to find the man of your dreams, you have to know what kind of man you’re looking for first. What qualities make him unique. What qualities you’re looking to have in your life and by your side forever.

Here’s a list of the top 10 qualities that men are looking for in a woman they want to be with forever…

1. Supportive

Men are looking to be supported by the women by their sides, just the same as women want their partners to be supportive of them.  It might sound old fashioned, but it’s still a strong idea that’s VERY relevant in this day and age.

Men want women who support their dreams. Who support their choices. Who support their work, and their passions, and goals. Men want women who care, who are in their corner all the way, and who want to help improve their lives together.

2.Trustworty

Men are looking for a woman they can trust. This is something that goes both ways, and is just as important to both parties.

He needs to know that you’ll follow through on your promises, that you won’t break your word. There are too many flaky people out there today – and a man looking for a life partner doesn’t want any part of them. A true soul mate knows how valuable real trust is.

3.Compatibility Between the Sheets

Every man wants a woman who he’s sexually compatible with. A woman who can surprise him in the bedroom, can sometimes take the lead in the bedroom, and most importantly – makes him feel like a man.

Successful men are most often turned off by women who carry sexual shame – and when it comes to sex, men are looking for women who are generous and up for trying new things – as long as they’re not totally offensive or dangerous.

4.Playfulness

Who doesn’t want to laugh and have fun with their mate?

Men are looking for women who can be playful with them. Without playfulness, neither men nor women can relax and loosen up – which is hard to come by out in public or at work. When a man is with a woman who can delight him with her silliness or spontaneity, that’s a woman he wants to keep.

5.Ability to Forgive

Men are looking for a woman who can forgive… because a man knows that he’s GOING to mess up – and he wants to be forgiven.

Any long-term relationship needs the ability of both partners to forgive and understand each other, even when they mess up. Everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect – so a relationship that doesn’t include forgiveness can never last.

Note that this doesn’t mean that you should forgive the unforgivable.  If your partner hurts or harms you or your relationship in a way that you feel is a deal breaker, it is time to walk away.

6.Having Self-Confidence

Confidence is sexy and attractive to both genders.  Men desire confident women. Innumerable relationships have been destroyed because of self-doubt, insecurity, and lack of confidence.

When a woman shows a man that she has no confidence in herself – what she’s really telling him is that she’s not going to carry herself in this world – and that he’s going to have to carry her.

And that’s the last thing men want. Men feel burdened by expectations all around them in the world – and they’re NOT looking to add another burden to their lives at home. If he sees you as a woman who can carry him sometimes – just like he carries you sometimes – he will see you as his soul mate.