Woman opens up about unconventional sex life: 'Everyone should have multiple lovers'
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Earlier this year, Nadia Bokody opened up about her previous obsession with sex.
The 34-year-old divorcee has since secured over 17,400 followers on Instagram by talking about her unconventional love life.
Since her marriage ended four years ago, the Australian writer has turned her attention to a new fella.
But despite being in a happy relationship herself, Nadia believes women should have multiple lovers.
“You are essentially setting yourself up for failure”
Nadia Bokody
In an exclusive interview with Daily Star Online, she said: “In today’s modern dating culture, everyone is dating multiple people.
“We have endless choice at the swipe of a finger and near constant sense of FOMO that someone better is out there we still haven’t met.
“If you are putting all your eggs in one basket, especially before being given any sort of confirmation of commitment, you are essentially setting yourself up for failure.
“Because chances are the man you are committing all your time and emotional investment to is still shopping his other options on Tinder.
“And even if he’s not, he’s probably quite happy to string you along for months on end without ever giving any sort of formal commitment.”
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CONTROVERSIAL: Nadia Bokody believes women should never put all their eggs in one basket (Pic: NADIA BOKODY / INSTAGRAM)
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SEX WRITER: The 34-year-old has been married and divorced (Pic: NADIA BOKODY / INSTAGRAM)
Nadia, whose marriage ended by the time she was 30, has since been in multiple relationships.
In fact, the editor of SheSaid has been dating more than one guy at once.
She added: “When I met my boyfriend I’d been dating at least half a dozen other guys.
“He increasingly had to step up the amount of time and effort he put into pursuing me as I wasn’t always available to him and within weeks I had commitment of exclusivity from him.
“I also sent a signal to him that I was hot property. I didn’t need to sit around and wait for him, there were other suitors who were interested too.”
When it comes to jealousy, Nadia insists it gives her even more reason to date multiple people.
Nadia explained: “At the beginning stages of dating someone I absolutely get jealous and worry about who else they may be seeing when we’re apart – if I’m actually emotionally invested in them.
“But that’s even more reason for me not to put all my eggs in one basket.
“It’s like entering the lottery. If you desperately want to win, but only buy one ticket then all your hopes are tied to that one single ticket.
“If you diversify your investment however, and purchase lots of tickets, suddenly there’s less pressure on that one ticket and less potential for having all your hopes destroyed in a single swoop.”
She continued: “Men know when you’re sitting around waiting for them, they’re not stupid.
“And so if you’re subconsciously letting him know he never has to worry about putting in any effort or committing to you because regardless of what he does you will be investing everything you have into him and only him.”
For more of Nadia’s sex and dating advice, follow her on Instagram.
